For Goodness Sake!

Such an odd phrase!  It seems to have a strange origin and stranger application.  While the phrase “for goodness sake” is part of a translation of Plato’s Republic, it lives on in various places, including some Christmas songs to remind us of the quasi-omniscience of St. Nick.  But then, as now, it serves very little value in producing Goodness.  It is simply an exclamation to add flavor to an appeal.  “For goodness sake, women, bring me another Oreo!”  But the phrase raises some interesting questions.  If you have a minute, let’s explore them.

The idea of Goodness implies a contrast to something else – Badness!  And when you have a set of terms that create opposites, you must also have a standard that can be used to assess the amount or intensity of either extreme. 

  • Is this thing Good or Bad? 
  • Is this thing more Good than the other thing? 
  • How Bad is this thing really, compared to another Bad thing?
  • If I do a Bad thing so I can do a Good thing, is that good?

These hard questions must be considered when we talk about Goodness and Badness, or Rightness and Wrongness. Since analogies are Good, let’s play with one:

It is cold outside!  But who determines this coldness?  In this example, I do!  I think it is cold.  I think this because of some standard that I use to make this determination. It is cold because I am used to something warmer.  It is the middle of summer and it is 72°.  If I say it is cold then it is because I am used to or expect it to be 85°.  Let us jump forward 6 months to winter.  How ridiculous would I sound if I still said 72° was cold?  But wait!  This winter I took a vacation to the Bahamas so 72° is still cold.

Do you see the problem?  The standard keeps changing.  You want more ambiguity?  Ask my wife!  She will tell you that 85° requires a jacket, blanket or fireplace…no matter what season or county.  The only time we will get full agreement on this ever-shifting scale is in the extremes.  No one will argue that 72° below zero isn’t cold.  Equally, no one will argue that 105° isn’t hot – unless we are talking about your soup or coffee, that is only tepid.  Darn it!  There is that shifting standard again!

If we want to have a serious conversation about the coldness or hotness of something we have to start by applying a set of standards.  As long as don’t argue over Celsius or Fahrenheit, we at least have a common starting point.

So here you have it.  This is our world.  We have a habit of applying the standard of our choice to the world around us.  Miles vs Kilometers.  Pounds vs Kilograms.  IQ vs EQ.  The variables of what is hot & cold, tall & short, smart & ah…not-smart are subject to preference and malleable constructs.  Since this is how we approach nearly everything in our day-to-day life, it makes sense that we would keep this Play Dough view of good and bad…of right and wrong. Both “concepts”, goodness and badness, have been molded like putty into the image of our own experience or opinion.  This has become so common; our language has changed to include moral ambiguous phrases like “What is your Truth?”  Or “You do you and I will do me!”

With this approach to a critically important moral scale, I am now able to easily tell you that I am Good or that I am even better than you.  Actually, I am thankful that I am not like that sinner over there!  Sound familiar?  This fuzzy moral code is not new.  I would argue that it goes all the way back to the original Scale-shifter.  The serpent simply said, “Did God really say that?”  Question the standard and the next easy step is to create a new standard.  So what standard should we use to assess Goodness?  I thought you would never ask!

Jesus had a thing or two to say about Goodness.  When He was approached by the Rich young Ruler (Luke 18:18) “Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?”, Jesus responded, “Why do you call me good?  No one is good except God.”

Was this a reprimand for calling Him good?  Absolutely not!  It was an affirmation of His deity!  Jesus was drawing out the unknowing truth of what the man had said.  “I am God; therefore, I am Good – you have rightly said!

This simple question/statement by Jesus solves our Shifting Scale problem.  WE are not the standard of Goodness.  Billy Graham, Mother Teresa are not the standard!  Jesus is the standard.  Jesus is God; Jesus is Good; no other.  If Paul says that part of the Fruit of the Spirit is Goodness, he is telling us to be like Jesus, not better than our neighbor; not better than a convict.

A final thought: Since Goodness is really all about Who God is and His character, it makes sense that Goodness is actually derived from Godliness and Godliness is really God-Likeness?  That means we are only showing goodness when we are acting like God.  This would be an impossible task if it wasn’t for the fact that God says we are to be like Him.  He commands it!  If He gave the command, there must be a way to begin moving in the direction of becoming good.  This is the point of listing the Fruit of the Spirit.  And since these are His fruits, He can help us bear them.  We don’t and can’t be Good on our own.  That would produce Pride, a fruit of the flesh.  

This brings us to a quick practical step that we can take to develop Goodness.  We should begin every thought and every action with the question, “What would Jesus do?”  Don’t know the answer?  Get into the Word and learn how to be Good for Goodness Sake!

OPEN MIC:  SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS

  • What are some examples of when you thought you were being Good but it was really motivated by a self-focused agenda?
  • What are some examples of seeing others showing Goodness, like Christ?

-Michael G

Further reading: Fruit of the Spirit

The Kindness of Oz

1939 was a pivotally important year. It marked the start of World War 2 in Europe, Lou Gehrig’s retirement from baseball and the birth of Cleavon Little and John MacArthur. (I never imagined putting those two in the same sentence but, there you go!) But most importantly, it was the year of COLOR. It was the year that our black & white, monochromatic existence was expanded to see things like Mauve, Puce and Chartreuse. That’s right! Before 1939 the whole world was only black and white. I have proof! Check your Prime, Netflix or Hulu accounts. Every movie, TV show, Newsreel and newspaper before 1939 was black & white. It was not until August 1939 when Dorothy landed in Oz that Color came into our world. The moment she stepped onto the yellow brick road, we have had Technicolor, Kodachrome and Jonas and Gillian’s eternal Blue & Red shirts. Can you imagine or do you remember a world where rainbows are only in grayscale? It was a world without Blue Moon ice cream or Multi-colored Teletubbies (not sure we needed those – whatever they are).

Now just in case you think I am completely crazy, this is the fun story I used to tell our kids. I tried to convince them that color was discovered in 1939 and was released to the world through the Wizard of Oz. (Just for the record, if you ask them about this now, they will assure you that I am crazy and they never believed me.) I stand by my delusions!

This whole idea of color versus a black & white world intrigues me. What if the world was really devoid of many of the sensory things we take for granted? For some, it is! What if instead of Color, we had only Grayscale – instead of 66 piano keys, we had only 4. What if our sense of taste was only Sour or lacked Sweet? Here’s the powerful truth: We don’t need the variety. We can exist just fine with 2 colors, 4 notes and 1 taste. You doubt me? Talk to the person born without this full range of sense and experience. Many will share with you that they can still experience a life full of enjoyment. Ever heard of Fanny Crosby or Nick Vujicic ? Look them up!

So why this crazy rant on sensory perception? It’s simple! The variety of senses we enjoy is a pure GIFT! It is a gift of grace and a measure of the great love that our Creator has for those He created in His image. Do you think an amoeba or a worm have these gifts? It is said that dogs cannot see color. Why then do we get this gift of diverse perception? Kindness! Divine Kindness! There is no other answer that makes sense.

So what is Kindness? Is it simply being nice to someone? What if I extend kindness to someone so as to curry favor with them? Is this really kindness? I would argue, “No!” That is selfishness. I would suggest that Kindness is the result of being Humble; it is the Action of Humility. Humility is a selfless position of the mind. It is a way of thinking about others first. A way of viewing people and situations. C.S. Lewis said that Humility is not thinking less of your self but thinking about yourself less.

So how do we model this behavior? “Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ.” (Philippians 2:5). Kindness is the Action of this Mindset. The action is outward focused. It is the foot washing, it is the servant leader standing so others can have a seat. It is a choice to eat last so others don’t go without. It is silent, subtle; behind the scenes.

The moment Kindness goes public, it runs the risk of souring to pride. The quietness of Kindness means that it often goes unnoticed and uncelebrated – except to the object of the kindness. That honored individual is graced with a sense of value, worth and appreciation. They are bestowed the gift of seeing an additional color in the rainbow. When Kindness is withheld, it is a blessing denied to the giver. It is color lost, sound muted, taste soured for the intended receiver.

Do you recall how Jesus talked about Kindness? Walk the extra mile. Turn the other cheek. Return evil with good. A soft answer turns wrath. It was always the acts of Kindness that He highlighted and not the frame of mind. But we understand that frame of mind had to be like His – Humble. We need some tangible ways to apply Kindness.

  1. Focus – Pay attention to the Needs of Others. Be intentional about looking for and meeting the need in the moment. That includes the comfort of others. Here is a good litmus test. As soon as I feel uncomfortable, that is my trigger to look around to see if someone else is also uncomfortable and find a way to help them. Kindness!
  2. Listen – Listening is not the same as hearing. To truly listen is to pay attention to the person and the purpose of their words. Are they talking to share laughter or pain? Experience it with them. This is the point of Romans 12:15 “Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.” How can share in that experience if we did not listen to their words? Kindness!
  3. Serve – It is our pride that gets in the way of service. If we have a sense of entitlement or an expectation of reward and recognition, we will not serve. If the Master of the Universe came without an expectation to be served, are we better then Him? “…just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.” Matthew 20:28 Kindness!
  4. Smile – No doubt you have heard of an RBF: Resting Bad Face (I know, but this is a G rated channel). Suffice it to say that if you look angry, you will struggle to find opportunities to show kindness. “A man who has friends must himself be friendly,” (Proverbs 18:24) If Christians are supposed to be living an Abundant Life but we look like we were weaned on a pickle, no one is going to believe our acts of kindness. They will suspect an agenda or a bait-n-switch. If Jesus is on the inside, let your outside show it. Kindness!

Bottom Line: If Kindness is important enough to make it in the 9 Fruit of the Spirit, it is one we need to get better at developing and doing. Go spread some Color and Music for the world to hear!

OPEN MIC:  SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS

  1. Who has shown you kindness?
  2. How did you respond to that gesture?

-Michael G

Further reading: Fruit of the Spirit

6 Marks of Discipleship – #6 Bear Fruit

If you missed the Intro post in this series, be sure to read it.  It will provide more context around this series.

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Jesus gives 6 very clear statements about being one of His followers or disciples.  These are not requirements for salvation or forgiveness; rather they are conditions or evidences of being His disciple.

  • Mark of Discipleship #1 Hate
  • Mark of Discipleship #2  Suffer
  • Mark of Discipleship #3 Forsake
  • Mark of Discipleship #4 Abide
  • Mark of Discipleship #5 Love

Ask any farmer what he hopes to accomplish with his trade, and he will surely reply, “Produce a large harvest.”  In other words…Bear Fruit.  This metaphor is filled with teachable lessons for the Christian.  Perhaps this is why Jesus returns to this imagery often as He instructed His followers.

“By this is My Father glorified, that you bear much fruit, and so prove to be My disciples.” John 15:8 NASB

In the beginning, God chose to test and teach His creation.  He used:  Forbidden Fruit
God had Joseph bring his family to Egypt to build a nation.  He used:  Lack of Fruit (famine)
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6 Marks of Discipleship – #5 Love

If you missed the Intro post in this series, be sure to read it.  It will provide more context around this series.

Cat Lover…Not!

Jesus gives 6 very clear statements about being one of His followers or disciples.  These are not requirements for salvation or forgiveness; rather they are conditions or evidences of being His disciple.

  • Mark of Discipleship #1 Hate
  • Mark of Discipleship #2  Suffer
  • Mark of Discipleship #3 Forsake
  • Mark of Discipleship #4 Abide

Anyone who knows me knows that I have am not a cat lover!  I find them to be pretentious, self-absorbed and too good for their own fur.  Do I hate cats?  Well, for sure, I do not love them.  Having said that, would I intentionally harm a cat?  Um…well…OK, would I intentionally do something nice to or for a cat – NO!  Somehow, this has something to do with Love!

MARK OF DISCIPLESHIP #5: LOVE

 “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:35 NASB

In our 21st century American culture, a command to love one another is not only expected but commonplace.  We have profited from over two centuries of preachers & evangelists heralding the virtues of Christianity.  LOVE is always, and rightfully, among the top of the list.  However, the 1st century Christians did not benefit from the same environment.  Theirs was a culture of rules, regulations and legal statute.  Admittedly, this religious Continue reading

Playing in the Mud

This week’s discussion is How Does Faith Connect to your Happiness. Bonnie Gray is hosting a blog-and-comment discussion on “keeping faith fresh.” When you have finished reading here, hop over to Faith Barista and join in on the jam session!

It’s a childhood past time:  After a good down pour, go out and find a pile of mud; make slimy piles of gooey goodness; slippery castles of sloppy ooze – fun and happiness is had by all!  But as we grow older, the innocence of ‘mudplay’ gives way to another pursuit.

As adults, our search for happiness drives us to jump at the chance for self-indulgence and gratification.  We become satisfied with mere happiness when God has promised so much more – Joy! Continue reading

Bananas & Oranges

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Bananas are an amazing fruit!  They come with their own handle and are naturally appealing.  They truly are one of my favorite fruits.  They are tasty when they are bright yellow and make great bread when they are black and disgusting.  But one of their best features is the fact that bananas produce great belches!  (Yes!  I really said ‘Belch’ – No!  My wife didn’t proofread this post…quite possibly a serious strategic error!) Continue reading

Duck, Duck, Goose

I always loved this game.  Sitting in a circle waiting to be ‘goosed’; chasing the ‘goose-ee’; picking the next ‘goose’…good times! 

As adults, I think we still play this game but with a much different level of anticipation and enjoyment.  We either chase after something we can’t catch or feel we are chased by something that threatens to overwhelm us.  In the end, we are left feeling suffocated, unfulfilled, or in constant turmoil.  Life was supposed to be good, fun and peaceful…Peaceful – what does that mean?  Full of peace?  A life without conflict?  Day after day of calm relaxation?

Proverbs tells us to “go to the ant” (6:6) to learn some lessons.  Well, we are going to the birds! Continue reading

I Have Bad News…

…and right after this, we hear:

  • There’s been an accident
  • We’re getting a divorce
  • They found a lump
  • The car won’t start
  • We lost the bid
  • I’ve been laid off
  • There’s construction traffic
  • We broke up

It’s not always big things, though – A broken plate, a missed phone call, standing in a long line – it’s still bad news, whether someone says so or not!  Continue reading

Power Under Control

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Princess Bride” is a family favorite.  Any time I have to tell the kids to “Stop fighting…I mean it!”   You can be sure one of them will say, “Anyone want a peanut?”  (Those of you who have seen this movie are laughing right now.  Those who have not, are lost and wondering what’s wrong with me!  You need to see it.)

It would be too painful to “Princess Bride” aficionados for me to re-cap a scene from this movie, so suffice it to say that Fezzik (Andrea the Giant) is

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